Why do we forget things?

Our brains are crammed with information. Consider the amount of detail that we accurately remember every day. So why do we find ourselves forgetting things?

Sometimes we just don’t bother to store information because we become distracted by other things. Multitasking, switching from one thing to another and constant interruptions make it difficult to remember. Our focus may not be on what is happening now and the information is not stored.

Our memories are selective and we remember what we want to remember. Usually we focus on good memories and try to avoid the not so good.

Brains hold detailed representation of multitudes of things and we can’t always retrieve information when we want. Have you had moments when you couldn’t remember and suddenly when we are quieter, it pops up?

But the really good news is we can improve our memory. There are many simple strategies that we can employ to exercise and prompt our memory. Watch out for further posts. Please add the strategies you use to ensure you remember.

LUNCH and then it was winter

This came as an email to my In Box. Soul searching? I felt I should share these thoughts.


You know. . . time has a way of moving quickly and catching you unaware of the passing years. It seems just yesterday that I was young, just married and embarking on my new life with my mate. Yet in a way, it seems like eons ago, and I wonder where all the years went. I know that I lived them all. I have glimpses of how it was back then and of all my hopes and dreams.

But, here it is… the winter of my life and it catches me by surprise…How did I get here so fast? Where did the years go and where did my youth go? I remember well seeing older people through the years and thinking that those older people were years away from me and that winter was so far off that I could not fathom it or imagine fully what it would be like.

But, here it is…my friends are retired and getting grey…they move slower and I see an older person now. Some are in better and some worse shape than me…but, I see the great change…Not like the ones that I remember who were young and vibrant…but, like me, their age is beginning to show and we are now those older folks that we used to see and never thought we’d be. Each day now, I find that just getting a shower is a real target for the day! And taking a nap is not a treat anymore… it’s mandatory! Cause if I don’t on my own free will… I just fall asleep where I sit!

And so…now I enter into this new season of my life unprepared for all the aches and pains and the loss of strength and ability to go and do things that I wish I had done but never did!! But, at least I know, that though the winter has come, and I’m not sure how long it will last…this I know, that when it’s over on this earth…its over. A new adventure will begin!

Yes, I have regrets. There are things I wish I hadn’t done…things I should have done, but indeed, there are many things I’m happy to have done. It’s all in a lifetime.

So, if you’re not in your winter yet…let me remind you, that it will be here faster than you think. So, whatever you would like to accomplish in your life please do it quickly! Don’t put things off too long!! Life goes by quickly. So, do what you can today, as you can never be sure whether this is your winter or not! You have no promise that you will see all the seasons of your life…so, live for today and say all the things that you want your loved ones to remember…and hope that they appreciate and love you for all the things that you have done for them in all the years past!!

“Life” is a gift to you. The way you live your life is your gift to those who come after. Make it a fantastic one.

  • BE HAPPY !

Remember “It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.





ü Your kids are becoming you……but your grandchildren are perfect!

ü Going out is good.. Coming home is better!

ü You forget names…. But it’s OK because other people forgot they even knew you!!!

ü You realize you’re never going to be really good at anything…. especially golf.

ü The things you used to care to do, you no longer care to do, but you really do care that you don’t care to do them anymore.

ü You sleep better on a lounge chair with the TV blaring than in bed. It’s called “pre-sleep”.

ü You miss the days when everything worked with just an “ON” and “OFF” switch.

ü You tend to use more 4 letter words … “what?”…”when?”… ???

ü Now that you can afford expensive jewelry, it’s not safe to wear it anywhere. ü You notice everything they sell in stores is “sleeveless”?!!!

ü What used to be freckles are now liver spots.

ü Everybody whispers.

ü You have 3 sizes of clothes in your closet…. 2 of which you will never wear.

But Old is good in some things:

Ø Old Songs,  Ø Old movies, and best of all,  Ø OLD FRIENDS!!

Share with other “Old Friends!” and let them laugh in AGREEMENT!!!
It’s Not What You Gather, But What You Scatter That Tells What Kind Of Life You Have Lived.

Self-Diagnosis may be Mis-Diagnosis

Information overload regarding the symptoms of any affliction allows us all to assess ourselves and our friends state of well-being. Just after my husband turned 60 a new acquaintance of his took me aside and in confidence told me that I should be aware that Don had early onset dementia. The reasoning was founded on the friend’s observation of Don’s memory. I had known Don since he was 20 and it soon became evident after I met him, that he had selective memory. Anything important to him, his work never suffered, sport in all shapes and sizes was well remembered. But remembering less important stuff, like meeting me at a pre-determined time! Oh well we can’t all be perfect. And nothing has changed in the last 20 years, it’s the same as always.

Another acquaintance was chatting to me one day and shared that she was becoming easily distracted. Moving from one task to the next without completing the previous task. She wondered if this was the start of something sinister. In all the years I had known her, she had been exactly as she described. This was apparently the first time she had clearly observed her daily actions. What could I say? I did make suggestions as to how she might better focus on each daily task.

We need to be sure that what we are “seeing” is new and not something we have been living with for a long time but not previously noticed before making a diagnosis.