LUNCH and then it was winter

This came as an email to my In Box. Soul searching? I felt I should share these thoughts.


You know. . . time has a way of moving quickly and catching you unaware of the passing years. It seems just yesterday that I was young, just married and embarking on my new life with my mate. Yet in a way, it seems like eons ago, and I wonder where all the years went. I know that I lived them all. I have glimpses of how it was back then and of all my hopes and dreams.

But, here it is… the winter of my life and it catches me by surprise…How did I get here so fast? Where did the years go and where did my youth go? I remember well seeing older people through the years and thinking that those older people were years away from me and that winter was so far off that I could not fathom it or imagine fully what it would be like.

But, here it is…my friends are retired and getting grey…they move slower and I see an older person now. Some are in better and some worse shape than me…but, I see the great change…Not like the ones that I remember who were young and vibrant…but, like me, their age is beginning to show and we are now those older folks that we used to see and never thought we’d be. Each day now, I find that just getting a shower is a real target for the day! And taking a nap is not a treat anymore… it’s mandatory! Cause if I don’t on my own free will… I just fall asleep where I sit!

And so…now I enter into this new season of my life unprepared for all the aches and pains and the loss of strength and ability to go and do things that I wish I had done but never did!! But, at least I know, that though the winter has come, and I’m not sure how long it will last…this I know, that when it’s over on this earth…its over. A new adventure will begin!

Yes, I have regrets. There are things I wish I hadn’t done…things I should have done, but indeed, there are many things I’m happy to have done. It’s all in a lifetime.

So, if you’re not in your winter yet…let me remind you, that it will be here faster than you think. So, whatever you would like to accomplish in your life please do it quickly! Don’t put things off too long!! Life goes by quickly. So, do what you can today, as you can never be sure whether this is your winter or not! You have no promise that you will see all the seasons of your life…so, live for today and say all the things that you want your loved ones to remember…and hope that they appreciate and love you for all the things that you have done for them in all the years past!!

“Life” is a gift to you. The way you live your life is your gift to those who come after. Make it a fantastic one.

  • BE HAPPY !

Remember “It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.





ü Your kids are becoming you……but your grandchildren are perfect!

ü Going out is good.. Coming home is better!

ü You forget names…. But it’s OK because other people forgot they even knew you!!!

ü You realize you’re never going to be really good at anything…. especially golf.

ü The things you used to care to do, you no longer care to do, but you really do care that you don’t care to do them anymore.

ü You sleep better on a lounge chair with the TV blaring than in bed. It’s called “pre-sleep”.

ü You miss the days when everything worked with just an “ON” and “OFF” switch.

ü You tend to use more 4 letter words … “what?”…”when?”… ???

ü Now that you can afford expensive jewelry, it’s not safe to wear it anywhere. ü You notice everything they sell in stores is “sleeveless”?!!!

ü What used to be freckles are now liver spots.

ü Everybody whispers.

ü You have 3 sizes of clothes in your closet…. 2 of which you will never wear.

But Old is good in some things:

Ø Old Songs,  Ø Old movies, and best of all,  Ø OLD FRIENDS!!

Share with other “Old Friends!” and let them laugh in AGREEMENT!!!
It’s Not What You Gather, But What You Scatter That Tells What Kind Of Life You Have Lived.

How can OPAN help you?

When your need for care escalates, it is a good idea to be sure of your rights. Older Persons Advocacy Network is a national voice that advocates for older men and women. OPAN is made up of nine states and territory services. The organisations work closely together to provide nationally consistent advocacy, information and education all over Australia.

It supports consumers and potential consumers of Commonwealth funded aged care to understand and exercise their rights.

OPAN is creating digital communication channels, like television and videos in aged care facilities. The program is to ensure the rights of older people continue to be linked to aged care reforms.

Free calls are available on 1800 700 700 between 9.30am and 4.30pm weekdays. You might also check it out on this link

Have you used this service?            What was your experience?

How will you embrace your life expectancy?

Australian Bureau of Statistics indicates that life expectancy for both men and women has increased by more than 30 years in the last century. What can we do to ensure these extra years will be filled with the joy of living? Perhaps we need to take steps to ensure we can move forward and embrace the role of the Super Adult.

Food for thought that may inspire is to explore Marlene Rutherford’s website and blog. Acknowledging the wisdom and greatness of age is the first step to becoming aware of the possibilities that might be open to us for the extra years we have been given.

Check out    – an interesting website with blog attached. You might like to join one of her weekend retreats.


Do I need to appoint an attorney?

Power of Attorney (POA) is a legal document in which you designate another person to act on your behalf to make decisions about you, your property or financial affairs. It might be for ‘all decisions’ or ‘specified decisions’. Your appointee should be someone you trust to ensure you have peace of mind.

It has been considered as only being required should one become incapacitated. But this is not necessarily so. Extended periods outside Australia at any age could require the appointment of an attorney. A POA can be initiated for short periods of time if you are incapacitated or absent. On regaining your status or returning you will act for yourself. The most common time to establish a POA comes with advanced age. It should be reassuring as it is an instrument to protect your rights.

If you do not have a POA and a time comes when you can no longer handle your affairs, someone will need to apply to the government in your state of residence to appoint someone to act on your behalf. You can purchase POA kits from most Newsagents, Australia Post Offices and on-line.

I first appointed my attorney many years ago on my first extended period travelling and living overseas. Although my attorney has never acted on my behalf I alert him when something comes up so he can be ready if needed.

Do you have an experience to share?


Why should you make a will?

A will is a legal document that sets out how you want the things you own distributed when you die. It is not just for the wealthy, but a positive step to provide for the people you care about, family, friends or charities.

Making a will is not just for older people. Tomorrow is not a promise. Young people, between ages 18 – 34 without a will should know that everything will go to their parents. If you leave no will when you are older the “intestacy rules” will be applied to your estate. Depending on the size of your family your estate may go to the government.

Making a will is simple. Do-it-yourself kits are available from Post Offices, Newsagents and on-line. But it is recommended that you seek professional advice if your affairs are in any way complicated. Accuracy of the will document helps avoid disputes after your death. Person or Persons appointed by you (Executor/s) should have a copy or should know where a copy can be located when required.

Procrastination and an unwillingness to accept the inevitability of death often stops people from preparing a will. Having no will can cause much stress and angst at what is already an emotional time.

Put will preparation at the top of your to-do list.